The holidays are here, which means two things: calories don’t count, and every family has at least one relative who makes you question the Geneva Conventions.

So with Thanksgiving and Christmas knocking, I talked with my friend Alexandra Hudson, author of The Soul of Civility, to get some wisdom for those of us preparing to sit across from Crazy Aunt Agnes, Uncle Blah Blah, or That Cousin Who Thinks Facebook Is a Peer-Reviewed Journal.

The interview runs for about 19 minutes.